The old saying, “the grass is greener on the other side” has probably been spoken more by saying, “the grass isn’t greener on the other side.” Our envious, jealous, lazy self has filtered this statement through experience to basically share that it isn’t better once you get to the other side. However, our culture continues to lack a sense of commitment or good fight. Entitlement combined with our selfishness, causes us to get distracted by other grass. It is interesting how the color green gets such a bad wrap. There is the “green eyed monster” or “green with envy”. All are references to a lack of satisfaction or contentment.
Whether we are talking about relationships, financial struggles, parenting issues, friendships, or health issues, there are oftentimes other lives that look easier or more glamourous. We start eyeballing other grass when we start saying, “If only”. If only I could…..If only I had….If only I would…. If only I didn’t….. Those thoughts are doorways to wander. Some of us may never physically wander or quit, but when we allow ourselves to focus on the other side, our hearts start to abandon the good fight.
In my experience and opinion, there is one side that is always greener. It is the other side of trouble or trauma. So many times we are conditioned to avoid trouble or things that don’t feel good. However, there are good fights that are worth getting to the other side. Loneliness, a struggling marriage, a strained friendship, a rebellious child, a bank account that is at zero when diapers need to be purchased, poor health, etc. The list goes on. These are the times that the grass on the other side appears to be lush and inviting.
In my own story, I can vividly remember a morning on my bedroom floor when I wanted to quit. The disappointment and heartache were too great. I was tired and life felt very unfair. In that dark moment, I begged God to carry me. I was not raised to be a quitter. I allowed Him to carry me through the quicksand of life and He brought me to the other side of my heartache. Because of that experience, I now tell anyone I am encouraging through a tough season, “I don’t know the outcome, but if you quit, you will miss what God is going to do.”
Green in the Bible is used many times to refer to plants, growth, and new life. If you don’t allow God to carry you through a dry season, you will never fully understand how well He can carry you to the other side. Even if the outcome ends up different than you imagined, you will still experience great growth and blessings from the other side. Too many times we quit and miss it.
Jeremiah 17:8 “”For he will be like a tree planted by the water, That extends its roots by a stream And will not fear when the heat comes; But its leaves will be green, And it will not be anxious in a year of drought Nor cease to yield fruit.”