I often share about how blended families have unique challenges. One subject I talk about with blended couples is memories. A blended marriage doesn’t have lifelong memories to reflect on and share together. Yes, I sometimes wonder what Ridley and Lisa babies would have looked like or maybe what we would have done if we dated when we were younger. I know there are many things I missed as a Barron. However, just the other day, my thoughts went in a new direction.
It was a beautiful day and we were driving back into town. My mind was drifting and the list I was making in my head was growing long. So…
Dear Mr. Barron,
I want you to know that you were my first for many things.
You were my first to ride in a little red convertible.
You were my first to share my 40th birthday with.
You were my first to travel to so many of our states.
You were my first to send our kids off on their 1st dates.
You were the first to help me send our daughter and son to prom.
You were the first to pray with me.
You were the first to eat kale with me.
You were the first to teach me about the Bulldogs.
You were the first to pick out a puppy for our kids.
You were the first to receive a 100 watt light bulb from me as a gift.
You were the first to marry off one of our kids.
You were the first to take me to a marriage retreat.
You were the first to help our kids drive and get their licenses.
You were the first to teach me to shoot a gun.
You were the first to adopt a Compassion International child with me (and a 2nd child, and a 3rd child)
You were the first I shared P90X with.
You were the 1st to give me a special ringtone.
You were the 1st to eat some of my kitchen creations.
You were the first to take a selfie with me.
And the list goes on and on…..
While I share those things to flirt with my hubby, I also want to encourage you (my readers). So many times we all tend to focus on what we don’t get to do or what isn’t going our way.
Think about the one thing that can really get you off track or cause you to feel a little down. Then turn it around and start your list of some of the exact opposite things.
Maybe if you and your spouse have been fighting, you can list what you guys really enjoy doing or list what causes you to laugh together. If you are feeling lonely, maybe you can start a list of things that you love to do with others. If you find yourself in a season of financial struggle, list the things that are free that you can enjoy.
For every tough list, there is an opposite list waiting to be celebrated!