There is no way around some of those annoying buzzers in stores. The minute your toe crosses the imaginary line, all clerks are alerted that a wallet has entered. Then come the bouncing curls and big smiles that tell you the first hanger you have touched holds the garment just meant for you. I really don’t like it. I am an in and out girl. I am typically on a mission to maximize time and protect our monthly budget. So, I will loudly proclaim, “No thank you. I’m just looking.”
But am I? I mean if I find what I am looking for or if I happen to stumble upon a big sale opportunity, I buy. Then there is that moment I am standing in line with my potential purchase and she makes eye contact with me. I see her eyebrow raise over one eye and I find a distraction to look away. It is then my turn at the register and she boast politely with her, “I see you found something.” I quickly pay and thank her with a deep appreciation for not publicly humiliating me in front of the entire store.
I wonder how many times we get tripped up and embarrassed by our unintentional white lies. We must be careful with our words. They have to line up with our hearts. If my heart is really to be left alone in that store for a moment of peace and quiet, then I shouldn’t say I am just looking. Let’s look at it this way:
MARRIAGE: Is a wife “just looking” when she takes a second glance at the guy at the pool who is married to her best friend? After all that is her best friend’s husband so “just looking” would never hurt anything. Surely, a wife who is happily married would never move beyond “just looking”, right? Wrong. 1Corinthians 13 says that love “always protects”. ALWAYS.
SOCIAL MEDIA: Scrolling through our news feeds all day long can’t possibly be harmful. Aren’t we “just looking” at what everyone else has, does, accomplishes, buys, makes, feels and more? How can that even be a big deal if it is just a computer screen? Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing from rivalry or conceit; but in humility count others more significant than yourself.” God does not want any of us playing the comparison game at all. We are not better than others and we are not unworthy either. “Just looking” can chip away at our self esteem and get us off track from God’s purpose for us.
SHOPPING: Nowadays there is a bargain that can be justified by anyone. Recently we were at Academy Sport on a date night. Ridley and I love to shop there and he had birthday gift cards to spend. He asked if I wanted to go look at the tennis shoes. I quickly responded, “NO”. I know my own limits and “just looking” at all the cool tennis shoes is not good for me and Sugar Daddy. You see, I know my sweet husband would roll pennies from the couch for me sometimes to bless me with new running shoes. I can even come up with a few reasons I need those new shoes. After all, I need a pair of every color to match my workout clothes. I have to know my own limits and so I just don’t go look. Did you know Acts 20: 33-35 reminds us, “I covet no one’s silver or gold or apparel” before it talks about how it is more “blessed to give than to receive”?
PORNOGRAPHY: This is an area that is becoming a huge concern not only in marriages, but in people’s lives in general. We are becoming numb to right and wrong. The line in the morality sand is beginning to erase. NEWS FLASH…this is not just a problem for men. Ladies, lusting and “just looking” can be a trap for you too. With society flashing more and more inappropriate pictures at us, the images are etching into our thoughts and contaminating our hearts. We can no longer excuse away a commercial, a website, a book, a movie, a billboard, a social media picture or anything else. Yes, it is out there, but we must do absolutely everything we can to guard our hearts and our minds. I am so tired of hearing it being excused away with, “I have to know what is out there so I know how to help others” or “I need to see what my kids can possibly see” or “it is just a picture. My husband knows I love him”. God’s Word is very clear about this. 1Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”
Your eyes are filters for your heart and soul. “Just looking” can just be words of habit we too often pull out to excuse our sin. But, there is a way to be armed for this world in advance. Matthew 6:22-23, “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!”
Keep your eyes healthy even if you are “just looking” around.